Discover your G-Spot

About the G-Spot

Emily Dubberley guides you to the G-spot

Sexpert Emily Dubberley gives us the lowdown on the G-spot; where it is, what it could do for you and how best to find yours in our video guide.

Founder of womenís sex website cliterati.co.uk and Editor of Knave magazine, Emily has written numerous internationally renowned books, including The Loversí Guide Lovemaking Deck and tested over 500 sex toys.

10 Things you didn't know about the G-spot

1. The G-spot was discovered in 1950, but it was only officially categorised as a functioning female anatomical organ in 2001.
2. It is the size of a pea but can swell to the size of a two pence piece when properly aroused.
3. The G-spot is easiest to stimulate through doggy-style sex or by using a toy with an angled tip (try the Rabbit G-Pulse).
4. If you have a hard time finding your G-spot, squatting will help make it less elusive.
5. The medical term for the G-spot is 'female prostate' (the male prostate is inside his bum).
6. If stimulated in the right way, the G-spot can lead to female ejaculation.
7. Tantric practitioners consider female ejaculate to be a health tonic when rubbed into the body or drunk by a male partner!
8. Massaging the G-spot is thought to lead to emotional release and clearing of past trauma, according to alternative therapists.
9. According to research, stimulating the G-spot can increase a woman's pain threshold by up to 84 percent.
10. Some people consider the G-spot to be the other end of the clitoris, which, unlike most people believe, is actually wishbone-shaped and extends up the labia and into the vagina. The thing we think of, as the clitoris is actually just the clitoral tip.

Everything you need to know about the G-spot but were afraid to ask

Ever since gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg first discovered what we now call the G-spot, way back in 1950, the little erogenous zone has caused a stir. Scientists have debated whether it exists - despite the fact that 75 percent of women claim to have one - and researchers have pushed, prodded and probed the spongy mass to learn more about it. But shockingly, it wasnít until 1981 that Beverley Whipple and John D Perry actually gave the G-spot its name, in honour of Grafenberg. Even today, a quarter of women havenít discovered theirs, meaning they could be missing out on a way to enhance their orgasms and understand their body better.
Where is the G-Spot?
The G-spot has probably been labeled as elusive for so long because it seems to be a moveable feast. 72% of women say they are aware of their G-spot but they arenít consistent about its precise location. However, although the exact position of the G-spot varies from woman to woman, itís always on the front wall of the vagina roughly midway between the pubic bone (the bony ridge which can be felt just inside the front of your vagina) and the cervix (the round bit at the very top of the vagina). 50% of women place the G-spot just inside their vagina while 35% say itís deep inside. Either way, itís in the centre of the Skeneís gland and is made from erectile tissue. As such, it swells when stimulated.

Some women love G-spot stimulation, some donít think itís any big deal and some just get an urge to pee. However, if correctly stimulated, and ideally teamed with clitoral stimulation, it can lead to explosively intense orgasms - or even ejaculation - for many women.
What is the G-Spot?
Some people say that the G-spot simply the urethral sponge, which is dense with sensitive nerve endings and erectile tissue. Others claim that the G-spot is the base of the clitoris: a much larger organ than previously thought which is wishbone shaped, with Ďlegsí that extend up the labia and inside the vagina. The pea-sized nub that most people consider to be the clitoris is actually simply the clitoral tip.

The G-spot itself is also the size of a pea, when a woman isnít aroused, but can extend to the size of a ten pence piece, or larger, when stimulated so that it swells. Regardless of whether itís part of the clitoris or not, many women report that the G-spot is an erogenous zone so itís well worth discovering.
Why Stimulate the G-spot?
Although the G-spot wasnít identified in the Western world until the 1950s, tantric practitioners in the east have referred to the Ďsacred spotí for years. Massaging the area is thought to serve as a relaxation method, help remove emotional blocks from the woman and help her heal past traumas.

Whether you buy into the spiritual side of things or not, tantric practitioners were also some of the first people to realise that stimulation of the G-spot can lead to female ejaculation. Female ejaculate, referred to as Ďamritaí by tantric practitioners, is not urine as many people assume. Instead, itís prostatic fluid. While female ejaculation isnít something that every woman has experienced, research has found that ten percent of women expel between 9ml and 900 ml of fluid from the urethra during arousal and orgasm, and some women find that it enhances their climax giving a Ďrushingí or Ďexplosiveí feeling of release.

And then thereís an even stranger side effect to G-spot stimulation: research recently found that stimulation of the G-spot can increase the pain threshold by 47%, and if itís arousing stimulation it can extend as much as 84%. Most impressively, if orgasm is reached during G-spot stimulation, it can increase the pain threshold by a whopping 107%. Some scientists claim that this suggests the G-spot is designed to offer a natural pain reliever during childbirth. Obviously, it also helps make it easier to accept a well-endowed man without it hurting!

Most people who try G-spot stimulation, however, are doing it simply for pleasure. Descriptions of G-spot orgasms range from "intense," to "emotional,", "deep," to "body-shaking." Not bad for stimulating something the size of a pea!
Discovering Your G-spot
Discovering your G-spot takes a little work but the more you know your body, the better sex and orgasms will be, so itís well worth the effort. Given that 46 percent of women rarely or never climax through penetrative sex, learning how to pleasure an erogenous zone inside the vagina will certainly boost your chances of intense orgasm.
  1. Start by squatting to help make your G-spot easier to teach. Slide a finger inside yourself, (remembering to wash your hands first, of course) and feel around for an area a few inches inside the vagina on the upper wall (towards your stomach) thatís rough rather than silky. You may find it easier if you use a G-pot swelling lotion, or simply some lubricant to ease entry.
  2. Rub the area in a circular motion with a firm finger. If youíre in the right place, it will swell when stimulated. If not, move your fingers up and down until you find an area that does. Now, you can either continue masturbating your G-spot with your fingers, or move on to using a dildo or vibrator which youíll probably much easier, as many women find that their G-spot is too high up inside the vagina to stimulate manually for long.
  3. Choose a toy with a curved tip, or better yet, something that you can bend into shape yourself as every woman is different and that way, you can tailor it exactly to your own shape. . (Link to Ann Summers G Pulse film/info) . Slide it inside yourself until you hit the G-spot, then press the tip of the toy upwards. You can stimulate the G-spot on its own. However, many women enjoy teaming it with clitoral stimulation as that way, you can get a double orgasm (if youíre really greedy, you can add a butt plug to the equation too.)
  4. Now youíve enjoyed a G-spot orgasm alone, you may want to share the experience with your partner. Start by showing them what youíve learned - as well as teaching your man where to touch you, it will also double as foreplay as almost every man loves watching a woman masturbate. Then, he can use his fingers or the toy on you and join the fun. You can also try to ejaculate with your partner, as it can be easier for him to apply pressure to the G-spot for an extended amount of time - and many men find the view intensely sexy.
  5. For G-spot stimulation during sex, rear entry positions such as doggie style, standing doggie or spooning are best as they aim the penis directly towards the G-spot. However, if you prefer missionary position sex, raising your legs and hooking your ankles behind your partnerís head will help him hit the G-spot more easily.
NB. Donít worry if you get the urge to pee while stimulating your G-spot. As the G-spot fills with prosatic fluid, it pushes on the bladder indirectly. However, riding through this sensation can lead to a build-up of prostatic fluid which can then be released as female ejaculate. Some women can squirt up to five feet and itís certainly a sight to behold. If youíre worried about the mess, just put a towel down first so that you can go with the flow.

While G-spot stimulation isnít for everyone, youíll never know whether it can enhance your orgasms unless you explore it, and setting aside time to discover your body is never a waste. So get your fingers, toys, and Ann Summersí lotions and potions at the ready and youíre sure to hit the spot.
The Results are in...

Only 63.2% of women have had a G-spot orgasm

36.8% of respondents don't even know what the G-spot is!

A whopping 76.2% of us are not comfortable talking to their friends about the G-spot

Our results also show that Irish Women are much more in tune with their G-spot

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